I watch the Bachelor.
I admit it. I know, it's tasteless and tacky but I watch the Bachelor, I tweet about it as if I actually know these people, the works. With that being said, I do NOT worship everything that every bachelor or bachelorette does. So it may be obvious to you and that I am not the biggest fan of Kaitlyn, this season's Bachelorette.
This season has a big scandal to it (mostly to get more viewers, I know ABC's tricks) where Kaitlyn does the unthinkable with one of the contestants and then lives in regret. I watched the airing of the show in outrage at the comments that Kaitlyn and Nick (the "lucky" contestant) made about the act, and even some of the tweets from viewers. Kaitlyn's guilt rested mostly in the fact that she had just shared an intimate moment with this man even though she is technically in a relationship with a handful of other guys. However, she said over and over and over again that she did not feel guilt about the act, just about the fact that she hurt the other guys. Tweeters all over said the same thing.
What?
Correct me if I'm wrong here, but isn't that the same thing?
I read other articles, including one E!online wrote, stating that a girl simply has to sleep with a guy that she is considering a deeper relationship with to know if they're compatible.
You're kidding, right?
Many people out there, Christians included, do not understand why God put some seemingly strict rules in front of us. No sex? Are you being serious, God? To a lot of people it seems simply like what I just referred to it as: a rule. This couldn't be further from the truth.
One reason (and the main reason, might I add) that God commands purity until marriage is because sex creates a tie between two souls that should only be shared in a marriage. Some say that sex is a reward for a marriage, and I guess that is somewhat true. But I think God meant this as protection for us. One of the most cheesy points to purity before marriage is saving yourself for you future spouse. As cheesy and awkward as that it, it's true. On the Bachelorette it's more obvious being as she is literally in a relationship with like a ton of guys at the same time, but in real life we don't see like that. We, girls especially, tend to think "things are so great right now, I'm going to be with this guy for the rest of my life" and then two weeks later you're splitsville. How much pain is involved in that breakup if you have shared intimate moments before? You, my friend, aren't going through a breakup, you're going through a divorce. I'm not just talking about couples who have been together for two months, but also years. How many couples do you know that called it quits after dating 5 or 10 years? I know a surprising amount. Ontop of that, if you lose your purity in a relationship before marriage, how are you going to do a reality check in that relationship? If your dating someone that just isn't right for you but you have had sex, it's going to be pretty difficult to do what is right and end it. No one willingly wants to go through the pain of a breakup, but like I said, you have shared parts of your souls with each other. Breaking up at that point is like splitting a part of yourself in two and you are not going to want to do that. I honestly believe this is a large reason we have so many dead marriages in America. We lose ourselves too quickly to the wrong one and then it's too painful to leave.
On top of those two really good reasons, God has some other reasons in mind too, I'd say. STDs, unwanted pregnancies, all that good stuff. The point is, purity is more than just a rule. It's very practical. But society today makes it so incredibly hard to say "wait". We live today in a world that is all about instant gratification. Fast food, instant messages, sex whenever you want it. Why would we say no when everyone else is saying yes? Which is why what E magazine wrote absolutely killed me. You have to have sex with someone to date them? Really? Sounds like a case of "I wanna so I'm gonna" to me. Justifying the wrong does not make it right. Just because you want to do it doesn't make it right either.
On a less serious note, if you are a watcher of the Bachelorette and you actually like this season's bachelorette, thats fine. If you claim to be a christian and you glorify this bachelorette, that is not okay. Take a look at the message you are sending the rest of the world, because she is no role model for Christ.
